End of the adolescence seen by Dolto
Dolto says to us that adolescence finishes when the anguishes of the parents do not assign any more the children, when the children can accept their parents such as they are and know that they will be able to never change them, when even, the children do not want any more to change their parents, but of living their life.
This “acceptance” of the parents also means to leave a phase of opposition with his/her parents, phase which is very often comparable with a phase of opposition to most of the remainder of the rest of the world, excluded some close friends.
If one takes again this definition of the end of adolescence and that one tries an application on people who live around us, force is to note that the average age limit of end of adolescence is very difficult to evaluate. One could be tempted to propose 25 years like completion date of adolescence, because it is at this age that the calcification of the clavicle is finished (fine growth) .
However, force is to note that a number, seems it, increasingly more numerous people is reached of a syndrome than one could qualify eternal adolescence.
Roots of the syndrome
Adolescence is a relatively recent term which appeared in the literature only with the Romanticism. Front, a teenager was regarded as a child and, by means of rites of social and religious passages, was established adult by the company . The current company functions in a different way and adolescence seems become a permanent state for many people.
Dolto proposes faculty and brief replies of which one of most important is located around the problems of work to gain oneself what to create its autonomy. A teenager could, before, develop himself near his parents and of the company while working quickly and thus by having a potential for emanciper. Currently, the child work is prohibited and the dies leading to the studies format the spirit of the young people in their incapacity not to depend on their parents if something turns badly for them, including and perhaps especially in the event of problem within the family unit itself.
It diagnoses a phenomenon of social resignation very present in the teenagers and the young adults in phase of studies, in particular of studies higher resulting from a feeling of judgment than the dependence. The parents themselves often play the chart of the dependence, emotional initially but so material, continuously to request accounts from young adults whose spirit is still adolescent. In a certain way, the adolescent spirit of an adult is generally in connection with a problem of parental relations.
Being given the social of phenomenon of dependence, material and psychological generalization, the generalization of this resignation, the company itself became populated of this adolescent state of mind, characteristic in its demonstrations of immaturity. In a certain way, immaturity teenager of the legal adults (the most eighteen years) became legitimates, no rite of passage towards the adulthood not coming to break this age of the doubt about oneself, and because of the lengthening of the studies. Without being a judgement, the immaturity of the adolescent adults illustrates by several emblematic forms of adolescence itself:
> the worship for the rebellious spirit
> a tendency to aggressiveness or insulation,
> a clannishness,
> recurring black thoughts on oneself and the world, being able to lead to the nihilism and the suicide,
> childish behaviors,
> a tendency increased to be made handle,
> nonthe acceptance of oneself as well physical as psychological,
> fear of taking responsibilities and of only assuming its life.
The adolescent adult is thus a person not entirely built, in full distress, and if excluded de facto from the world of realities that its postures are either out-subject, or completely factitious.
The generalization of this kind of behaviors even generated within the company a true naive and a little incongruous pride to remain teenagers, last the age of about thirty. This established fact of course sharpens the appetite of companies the purpose of which are to sell with the category of the teenagers, very sensitive to the modes, either known as “normals”, or labeled “rebels.”
Once arrived at financial independence, the young adults did not become a psychological ripe of adult and the way which opens with them to reach that point is all the more long and difficult that they need, in a few years, to reconsider the majority of their principles of life and the opinions simplistic which they had on the world.
The ditch sometimes so deep that much of them cannot cross it and sinks in a neurosis post-teenager, is made perpetual dissatisfactions, of chronic depression and sterile disputes. These people are easiest with endocrine if one is a fine talker with the rebellious intonations
One of the features of the common neurosis of the young adult remained locked up in his adolescence is narcissism, with the behaviors induced by such an operating mode:
>an unrestrained consumption of products of the company being able to develop it,
>a logic in which to obtain it is more important than the desire ;
>the worship of certain dogmas which, although not being a more monk, have alienating structures and can develop it, to even to propose a pre-built identity him.
>by a exhibitionism which seeks to cause the love at the others and which betray a certain naivety ,
> by a intellectual research of the love through the modern means ,
The logic of group
The young adult in phase teenager is thus in search of recognition and of love and does not find the place which is his within the company. One of the palliative solutions is the investment in a group which can take on two natures:
>the active group, which is a politically engaged or socially committed group (altermondialism at the head), in which the good intentions rain to seek this need for personal recognition collectively,
>the passive group, which is illustrated in sterile evenings where each one speaks about oneself.
Each group has its own structure, its own mentors and the recognition of the mentor fills partially the need for recognition of the adolescent eternal .
Role and structure of the company
In a certain way, the company does not offer any assistance to these adolescent adults, because their presence in fact of the targets of choice for the salesmen, and the tradition of the normal philosophy in a certain way structured this operating mode since Sartre
The company, in what it does not propose any more rites of passage at the adulthood, which it does not criticize the messages of its thinkers headlights, in what it mistakes in an institutional way the psychoanalysis and psychology, does not leave of another choice to the adolescent adult make his silly things itself, i.e. to make the remainder of the way alone. The company, in this field, seems to give only images morals or indications of loneliness, all based on the astonishing assumption owing to the fact that all the adults are psychologically built at eighteen years .
In this inventory of fixtures of responsibility social, it is necessary to indicate that except role very ambiguous thinkers nevrotic and very intelligent (one and the other of dimensions not having anything incompatible), fact that the company lodges and recognizes from now on quantity of writers and journalists whose emotional and psychological maturity remained cloîtrée in a badly assumed adolescence , is very pernicious.
The result is that the message transmitted by these people legitimates an unlimited lengthening of adolescence. To paraphrase Of Gaulle, one could say that, in the company, the teenagers speak to the teenagers .
What to think of all that?
My role here is not to blow of the pre-chewed thoughts and I leave to the reader the care, firstly not to agree not with this analysis, and in the second place, if it would be it, to assume his own opinions.
Positioning is not, in my opinion, today that an individual engagement. So certain adults are teenagers and are proud to be it, he should be treated as what they believe that they are. It is often the best way of giving birth to the doubt in them. Many, by discovering reality, will be deeply ravaged and will remain for it forever hardly built psychologically, blocked in the certainty to be right vis-a-vis the rest of the world.
It would be wise to reveal on the public place the responsibilities for the parents who, as they establish the base founder of the child psychology, have a fundamental responsibility in the psychological stability of the children and consequently of the teenagers on the way to become young adults. However, this family bond is not more civilizable today than it was it yesterday. That so-and-so or so-and-so is reached (E) as a young adult of anguishes, depression, physical somatic syndromes more or less serious, if responsibility for the parents there is, the latter can be indicated only by one professional of the psychiatrist type or psychoanalyst, people of which one is wary a priori .
It is however of a true social psychoanalysis which France would need , and not, as that was done in the past, of political sociology only. The current distress structural of the people in a state of permanent adolescence is not inevitable, but it feeds the neurotic company [http://www.pharmacyka.com] in which the true fracture is not a social fracture between the individuals but a true psychological fracture between:
. people who, of themselves succeeded in passing the course of the psychological adulthood,
. those which, in spite of the years, kept in them a behavior of perpetual teenager.
What to say then behavior of parents, adult adolescent, with respect to their children? That it is harmful for the children who see in their parents of the people halfway between the buddies and the parents. How much children will see themselves stealing their future because of the incredible claim of their blocked parents, towards and against all, in an open step teenager?
If the adolescent eternal does not want to be adult for itself, that it considers to do it for his children.